Posted in Thoughts, Thoughts from Kids, Thoughts from Life

>Preacher’s Kids

>The other day two books came for me that excited me to no end.  One was You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes by Lisa McKay and the other was She Can’t Even Play the Piano! compiled by Joyce Williams.  Both are written by and for pastor’s wives.  I can’t wait to dig into them!

This morning Olivia was looking at the books and asking about them.  I told her they were for preacher’s wives.  As she and I talked, we both began to wonder if there was anything like those books for preacher’s kids.  There are several resources geared toward adult PK’s whose lives are either in shambles or have returned from the shambles of all they experienced as children growing up in the glass house.  My sweet nine-year-old is awakening to a lot of the realities of being a PK.  She’s handling it well, so far, but she has many years ahead of her.  How awesome would it be for her to have support right now?  To have concrete evidence that she’s not alone on this journey?  That other kids are growing through this time, too?  How wonderful would it be for her to have wisdom shared from PK’s whose lives didn’t fall apart?  PK’s who are passionate about pouring into young PK’s like herself and giving them pointers?

If resources like those exist, they aren’t easy to find.  But, to be honest, that is somewhat reflective of both our culture and our churches.  We are much more involved in curative rather than preventative intervention. We don’t think about getting to these kids before damage is done. 

The exciting thing about our conversation this morning was that we didn’t say, “Well, we can’t find anything,” and let the idea go.  Instead, we gained determination.  If the resources aren’t compiled right now then, by golly, they should be!  So, what will we do about it?  Doug and I suggested to Olivia that it just might be up to us to see what we could start to put together.  Oh, to have captured the expression on her face at that moment.  She was so excited!  The thought of being a part of something that would pull together a community – that would help a large group of people!  That sort of thought just energizes her to no end!

So, we’re on a mission to find whatever we can to help encourage and equip PK’s, partially through encouraging their parents, but mainly through speaking directly to them.  To disciple them personally, keeping in mind that their discipleship will just look a little different from that of other kids.  To show them that they are just as called as their parents (who, incidentally, didn’t have much choice in the matter either!).  To teach them how to work through that calling.  And, to help a generation of PK’s form a new mold and set a new image for themselves and future generations of PK’s. 

Having said that, input would be fantastic!  Are you a PK?  Are you the parent of a PK?  What advice would you include?  What thoughts would you share?  What encouragement would you give?  What would you like to see included in such a resource? 

Who knows where this will go!  It might never turn into anything published or organized, but maybe it will.  Maybe it will inspire someone else who will take it to new heights.  And maybe my little girl – who I know is destined for ministry in her adult life as well – has found the beginning of her niche.  Who knows?  But, I’m excited to see where it goes.  And I’m proud of my PK for being excited, too!


I am a homeschooling preacher's wife and managing editor for the Well Planned Gal. But, I also love to write just for the fun of it. I also process best through writing, and my thoughts tend to flow from things I learn through the Bible, interacting with my family, and moving through life in general. Thanks for joining me in my not quite ordinary journey.

5 thoughts on “>Preacher’s Kids

  1. >I will mull over the PK book idea and get back with you if I think of any ideas for you to write a book about. We are still sheilding our kids from the "bad" stuff at church. They think everyone likes us! Its like a fairy tale!! LOL!!I love Lisa McKay's book! She spoke at a womens conference we had in Pine Bluff last year and she will be speaking at the state ministers wives luncheon in October. Love.Her.


  2. >Thanks, Julie! We're still shielding, too, but there are just some things that slip out now and then. I'm so excited that Lisa McKay is speaking at the luncheon! I was just thinking the other day how fun that would be…I had no idea it was already in the works! Can't wait!


  3. >I know you are thinking in the direction of the book idea, but, what about writing a mother-daughter blog? It will be good for Olivia in terms of learning the tech and practicing her typing and you already have a built-in and supportive audience to help build her confidence. I'm certain the moms who read your blogs now would delight in having their kids read and respond to Olivia's posts. And THAT would help other kids safely learn about blogging and the internet and practice their own writing and typing skills.Plus, a lot of books these days are compilations of blog posts. A blog would also give you two the freedom to write about anything at all without constantly asking yourselves the "does this REALLY belong in a book?" question that goes along with attempting to write for potential publication.


  4. >Thanks for the idea, Steph. That was actually more of where I was going. I think the "book" idea wasn't a thought of trying to get published as much as having a printed resource to hand to people. But, the blog idea is really more up our alley. I want to walk Livie through researching some of this first before we dive in without really knowing what to put on the blog. So, that's probably what we'll spend at least a couple of months on. Anyway, thanks for the thoughts!


  5. >I couldn't agree more with this: "But, to be honest, that is somewhat reflective of both our culture and our churches. We are much more involved in curative rather than preventative intervention. We don't think about getting to these kids before damage is done."I think that's true regardless of discussing PKs or non-PKs. As a PK, my life didn't go crazy and I didn't walk away. But without a doubt I have scars and tender parts as a result of my experiences as a PK. I think the parents also have a huge influence on this topic. My advice to a young PK girl… you don't have to be perfect. In fact, you can't be perfect. Learn to love Jesus above all else.


What are your thoughts? I'd love to hear from you!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s